The Water Oracle Monthly Horoscope
February 2019 Horoscope
Keywords: Self-awareness - Integration - Rest
Putting the Pieces Together
February’s horoscope is not going to be like most of the horoscopes I’ve written, though the information is coming to me the same way. I usually rope in energetic influences and astrological events, etc. This month there is something else on the table that needs to be shared.
In February we walk into the heart of winter. Like walking into the mouth of a cave, the real journey inward begins here. It’s time to push past all the surface level resolutions and the “new year, new you” sentiment. We’re asked to now take a deeper look, a real look underneath the hood. I want you to take a minute and ask yourself one question. Who are you? Not who do you want to be, or who are you pretending to be when other people are around. But when no one is watching, who are you really? This is who you need to resuscitate. This is who is actually the one at the control panel driving both your decisions and managing your fears. The side of yourself that you tuck away, is actually the missing piece of your puzzle. Feeling complete is not having it all. It’s not having the perfect relationship or that elusive soulmate. Feeling whole is allowing for all of you to show up to the party, even the part that likes bread and binge watches Netflix.
I am reminding you of this because this is often the time of year when we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be more/less ___________________. You can fill in the blank yourself. Marketing, social media and the self-help industry have us caught in this tide of feeling that we have to conform to be happy. That once you are x or y or z you’ll feel better and be more successful. The truth is, even if you lose the weight, buy the lip gloss, go vegan, change careers… whatever, you won’t feel any different inside unless it honors who you really are. Unless change comes from a place that answers a core need, you will not feel better even if you succeed. The term hollow victory comes to mind here.
This month spirit is suggesting that we’ll need to travel all the way to the core of our being to look at the real fundamentals. What are we really good at? What are the key lessons we’ve learned so far? What really lights the spark within? Understanding this is essential to our well being even more than giving up carbs right now. Remembering and honoring who we actually are and what we actually want is the prime task. It will help us live the life we were meant to live, aligned with our purpose for being here. When we allow our true selves to rise to the surface happiness is a less slippery state to achieve. It is when we are caught living lives we don’t want, following conventions we don’t believe in and gobbling up things we don’t need, that choosing to be happy is in constant conflict with an inner nagging feeling that something is not right. We often assume that what’s not right is us. We live is a society that is constantly telling us we’re wrong is some way and not enough in other. We’re not cool enough, smart enough, rich enough or thin enough. And so, we look to the outer world to find what’s not right and fix that. We change our hair, we diet, we strive to be fashionable, have the house, the cars, etc. We buy self-help books to master what’s wrong with us. None of this works. We still feel the same. We don’t live in a society that honors the individual. This in turn makes it very difficult to learn how to honor ourselves and the unique qualities we each bring to the table.
So, in February we’re going to talk about what actually has to happen for us to feel empowered and to have some real answers so that we can navigate the road to living a better life where we feel fulfilled. This journey starts by asking yourself some relatively simple but deep questions about yourself.
Who are you?
Getting back in touch with yourself will help you gain some perspective of where your life is right now and where it could lead you. Understanding some of our core needs and abilities will provide insight and even direction. Maybe changes are needed for you to feel happier. It’s all about addressing the real issues. Once you’ve done some exploration the next step is integrating all the pieces together. However, first things first. Take a look at these questions below.
Try exploring these:
• What are my natural talents and abilities? The things I do well without much effort and coaching.
• What knowledge do I carry and through experience what wisdom have I gained so far? There are facts that we know because we’ve read them or were taught them and then there is the wisdom we’ve gained through experiences. Wisdom implies understanding theory in action not just facts.
• In the big moments of my life, was there a take away, something you learned through that process? Is there a pattern in the lessons you have learned from your life experiences? Identify the lesson, then look for the patterns if any.
• What drives my excitement and joy (the moments when I feel most alive)?
• What do I love? It does not have to be a person. It is ok that you only truly love your dog. You are allowed to be you and open your heart to what you want to, not what society tells you to.
So, at the root end of it all there are some core elements of you and what drives you. When you find that you are unhappy or unfulfilled it’s probably because your life has drifted away from these things.
What are my natural talents and abilities? I believe we are naturally good at the gifts we are meant to use in this lifetime. It doesn’t necessarily mean that that is the career you are meant to have, but it could help you figure that out if you are unhappy with what you are doing. We are naturally good at the gifts we are meant to use because those are the tools we’ve been given to help others. Part of our role here is to help others, and for others to help you. That is why you are not alone on this planet. We are all connected in this way. You are the key to something for someone whether that be great or small. When we help others we feel good, we experience a sense of fulfillment. If you find you are living a life that feels empty and unfulfilling, ask yourself if you are using your gifts and abilities to help other people.
What wisdom have you accumulated in your life so far? Can you identify the big moments in your life and find any valuable take aways from those experiences? This information is valuable to you moving forward. Your life lessons aren’t random. You’ve harvested a whole basket of gems so far. These are resources for the future. You’ll find this useful later on either for yourself or for someone else. Take a look and examine and refine the data. Doing so may even provide you with insight on a direction to move forward if you are feeling stuck or how to solve a problem you are currently facing. Nothing you have experienced good, bad or horrific is devoid of value. Even our most painful experiences can provide an understanding that can be shared with someone else to help them heal or to help prevent similar events from happening to others. We can use our knowledge and our wisdom as a compass to navigate but also to teach. I have found through being a parent and through actually teaching classes, that the best way to get a message across to someone is to be real and to share your own experiences and the way you have handled them. Even if you stumbled at first or had a setback. Even if you feel you haven’t mastered anything yet or haven’t completely healed, that does not mean that you can’t help someone else with what you know. Bottom line is the wisdom you have gained is relevant.
Identifying patterns in your life lessons can help you avoid repeating the same mistakes going forward. What keeps tripping you up? Why do you think that is? Here is where the New Year’s resolutions and big life changes need to come into play in a meaningful way. Get a hold of the real issue and work towards resolving that. Do you self-sabotage? Why do you think you do that? Get to the bottom of this. Sometimes, we can manage these kinds of questions on our own with a little elbow grease, some serious journaling and some crafty vision boarding. But sometimes we need professional help too. You may have issues that need to be worked through with the help of a therapist. You may have issues that need to be sorted out with a financial planner or accountant. Some of the things we wrestle with are too big for us to handle on our own. This is where someone else’s gift or ability will come to benefit you. There is nothing wrong with needing help. This is something that we must start teaching and sharing with others. You are not alone in this world and if you need help it’s okay to ask for it.
What are you doing when you feel the most alive? The most excited or joyous? If you’re lacking direction or feeling bored identify these things and pursue them, incorporate more of them. This may lead to you making big sweeping changes or just tweaking how you currently do things. It may mean you have to be a little more active or change your schedule. When we feel most alive or “on” it is a huge signal that we’ve stepped into something we’re supposed to be doing. That we’re in alignment with our core being. If you feel purposeless, this is a good indicator of something you are meant to do, at least in part, with your life. For example, I feel the most alive when I am doing spiritually related work or creating something. I know because I feel it deep within, that my purpose here involves doing both of those things. When I focus on that the roads to take to move forward seems to rise to meet me. Not all at once and not in a perfect self-help book kind of way, but in a real-life way where things come together naturally over time.
Finally, what do you love? There is no wrong answer. What and who we love is unique to each of us. It is in part what differentiates us from one another and what unites us all at the same time. Answering this question can benefit you in a million different ways. Focusing in on what you love rather than what you do not love will help you maintain a state of happiness a little more easily. When we focus on what or who we love we tend to spend more time on those things. If our attention is on things we love or doing what we love, life seems less bleak, less awful. There will always be problems to face. Something will come to upset the proverbial apple cart, that’s just life. But if you can remember to focus on what you love those difficult situations will be more “this sucks” than “life sucks”.
The last thing I want to mention for February is to take time to rest. I like to heed the advice of the seasonal energy around me. In winter take time to rest and recover. February is definitely a good time for that. The body needs exercise, don’t get me wrong. But think gentle exercise like walking, yoga, calisthenics and lifting this month. Next month turn up the dial cardiovascularly. But for now, rest without guilt. If you are tired and warn out listen to your body and your mind and take a break.
Be happy and well! - Stacey
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